Sunday, September 30, 2007

Perfect Mommy Moment


Jack has been a very active and talkative child recently. I have been barely able to keep up with him and as soon as he's awake he talks non-stop until he sleeps...even during meals and potty. The only quiet in my day is during naptime. Tonight as I was scooping food onto plates for dinner, this conversation took place:

Me: Jack, can you be quiet for 5 seconds?
Jack: Yup.
Me: (in a whisper to Ian) Wow, he can.
Jack: (after about 5 seconds) Mommy...?
Me: Yes, Jack.
Jack: Mommy, I love you.

My heart melts!

Thursday, September 27, 2007

Laughter is the Best Medicine

You can’t laugh and be afraid at the same time—of anything.~Stephen Colbert, Parade Magazine

When I started my journey through cancer, I was afraid...terrified even. My husband was in Iraq and I had cancer. A very treatable one, but the "C-word" nonetheless. The first few weeks after diagnosis were rough. I laughed very little and talked to very few people. When I was finally able to cope with having cancer it was freeing. I wasn't going to let this thing beat me, I wasn't going to let it take over my life. So send in the clowns!

I honestly think that my ability to deal with having cancer was because I tried to laugh through the whole thing. I couldn't put my finger on what it was about laughing at cancer that was so nice, until I read Parade Magazine this past weekend. There was an interesting story about Stephen Colbert, from The Colbert Report. I love the very last line in the story (the above quote), because you can't be afraid if you are laughing. I couldn't be afraid of cancer if I was always saying, "Na na na na boo boo!"

So I started trying to find ways to poke fun at cancer and find the humor in it. I now have many names for my scar: Pez-head, Zipper, my permanent smile, Cut-throat. Would I be like Spiderman after I received the radioactive iodine treatment? (Unfortunately I have not yet discovered any superpowers) Would I glow in the dark after said treatment? I was hoping for something fun, but nope. It has turned out that each time Ian has deployed he has returned early, because of me having cancer-related surgery (or being diagnosed), we are 3 for 3 with deployments and early returns. Hopefully we make it through an entire deployment sometime, but until then I'll enjoy my favorite joke, "Oh, go on that deployment, Honey, but I know exactly what to do to get you home early!"

Wednesday, September 26, 2007

Signing on for Another 4

Yesterday Ian re-enlisted in the Marine Corps. He signed on for another 4 years plus the remainder of his current contract (which would have ended in April). So even though he'll deploy, he has a job for at leat 4 more years! There is nothing like job security, right?


Now that Ian has moved over to his squadron (VMFA 323), he had his ceremony in the hangar. It was pretty neat, I've neve been to a re-enlistment before and Jack LOVED seeing the jets up close.

It wasn't a long ceremony, mabye 10 mintues. There was a stack of paperwork for Ian to sign (I supposed enough to sign your life away) and even I was presented with a Certificate of Appreciation. It was the first time I was recognized by the Marine Corps. I felt pretty special too.

Wednesday, September 19, 2007

Adoption

I love that our son joined our family through adoption. It was a long and sometimes difficult process, but at the end we were blessed with a miracle that God arranged over the whole Earth! When you meet other adoptive families, you instantly have this bond that no one outside the adoption community can understand. Whether your process was long or short, in the end what makes your family is love and not biology.

When we were waiting for our referral for Jack, I found a site especially for families adopting from Korea that were using the same agency as us. At first it was nice to know there were others who were struggling with the wait and were eager for our weekly updates from the program coordinator. The longer we waited, the more we leaned on each other for support and we became a family of sorts...an adoptive family. We each cheered and cried tears of joy for one another when we got our referrals and when our children we able to come home. It was so exciting to find out who got a referral or a travel call...and to find out who else was nesting like crazy! The site isn't as active as it was 2 years ago, but we still post pictures of our sweet children and enjoy sharing the challenges of parenthood.

One of my friends from the site has a dear friend who is waiting to adoption their second child. Because we are all a part of that adoption community, I volunteered to post their website on my blog...to cast their net out a little further. This couple has been networking for over a year now in search of a birthmother who desires to make an adoption plan for her child with little success. I hope my little blog can extend their network just a little more and help bring their family together forever.

http://brettandanneke.com/

Saturday, September 08, 2007

Finally....a new post!

It appears that I have been delinquent in posting on my blog...bad Mommavia. We have been busy here with the Terrible 2s showing up and a certain handsome boy not napping. That equals an exhausted Momma. I am terrified that he is kicking his afternoon nap...I love being with Jack, but it is nice to know that I have a couple hours of downtime every afternoon. I see that fading away...just like my baby.

Jack has started turning into a little boy, the baby Jack is almost gone. Part of it breaks my heart to see him grow up, but he really is a cheerful child and loves to laugh and make others laugh. He has been doing fantastic with using the potty. He only wears a diaper now at night and rarely has accidents. Each time he goes, he is so proud of himself...I guess it probably helps that I sing a special "potty song" each time, he gets a sticker for his poster, is allowed to choose what color M&M he eats, and gets a Matchbox car each 10 successes and a Curious George book at the end of an accident-free day. Potty training certainly can be expensive!

Now, for the pictures:

Making cookies with our friend Ben.

Enjoying the cookies!

At the zoo with Granpa L. We also went to Sea World when my Dad was here; it is unbelievable how much Jack loves animals of all kinds!

Jack' s new fish tank, he helps feed the fish.

Our spider...you can see the fly we threw in the web for him to eat. Russ & Jenni, do you remember feeding the spider at the Ranger Station? Ian thinks it's the same kind of spider.